Based on my personal life experiences and experiments, I really do believe that, it is very much possible for one to set his or her own goals in life and achieve them. The most essential quality for a person to achieve anything in life is “Self Belief”. Only difference between great achievers and you is that “First Step”, which is your Self Belief. If you don’t believe in you and your abilities, then who else will believe you in life? Great gurus like Swami Vivekananda, Peter Drucker and James Allen had spoken about Self Belief, some call it Self Confidence. What you achieve is largely a matter of what you believe you can. You can very well say Believe = Achieve.
Here are some steps through which you could build your Self Belief.
1. Listen to Yourself
First important step in building your self belief is listening to yourself. In order to listen, you should start talking to your self. Psychologists call it “Self Talk”. Self talk is the process in which you talk to yourself and give some auto suggestions, good or bad. May be you might have already done this at times before taking an important decision or before your interview or before proposing your loved one for the first time. Check carefully to see what are you telling to yourself. Are you saying things that are self limiting, things that put yourself down or are you saying positive things that will pump up your spirit, energy and enthusiasm? Listen carefully to your inner voice which always alerts you at critical times. Again Psychologists call it Gut Feeling, Instinct or Intuition. Read more Here.
2. Love Yourself
Do you love yourself for what you are, who you are and how you are? Many many young people are totally misled by the companies that sell personal products and beauty care items, that they don’t look good, they are not worthy and not confident. As said by the great Martin Luther King, “what matters most is not the colour of your skin, but the content of your character”. Make conscious decision to start loving yourself, limit your self criticism and be kind to yourself.
- Enjoy your own company.
- Be happy and feel good about you.
- Treat yourself with great love and utmost respect.
- Feel you are more worthy and most deserving.
- Look for the positive and good qualities in yourself.
- Focus on those great qualities you love about yourself.
- Have a great belief in your own abilities.
- Have a positive regard and respect for yourself.
Kiss yourself often to appreciate yourself.
3. Be True to Yourself and Lead a Honest Life
Being true to yourself is very important to believe yourself. Don’t ever lie to yourself about your thoughts, feelings and emotions. Be 100% truthful to you. Even if it is negative don’t try to suppress, instead acknowledge them as it is. Being true to yourself also means that you’ll communicate your feelings truly to yourself and people around you, allowing only the truth to flow through you. Easy and simple way to be truthful is to remove all your hidden agendas and tell the naked truth. It will be very very difficult to be transparent and let others see your feelings without wearing any socially acceptable masks. It takes lots of courage to be true to yourself, which in turn will lead to you being fully true to others as well. As you practice this, your thoughts, feelings and emotions will get greatly purified to noble ones, you will be gradually filled with good things in life.
Well, if you’re true to yourself you’re going to be true to everyone else. – John Wooden
4. Think about What and Why, don’t worry about How
Are you always worried about how am I going to do this? Yes, ordinary people are always thinking about the ways of doing things, the problems and the difficulties they will have to face. But great people do not really worry much about the how part, instead they find much stronger What and Why and then tell to themselves “I don’t know how, but I am sure I’ll find out some ways to achieve my goal”. So, don’t really be concerned about how you are going to be what you want to become, anyways you’ll learn the how part along the way as you progress. But, be more concerned about what and why. If you get that right, your self belief levels will go up and automatically you’ll get or you’ll invent new ways of how.
Only by systematically cultivating habits that will allow you to connect with your deeper senses and feelings, by bringing greater awareness about yourself, you can establish a strong connection to yourself, which in turn will lead you to your powerful “Self Belief”. As you very well know by now, “Believe = Achieve”.