Every morning when I say, simple and plain “Good Morning” to my family members, neighbours, colleagues and people I meet, I always I get dull and boring replies. Once I thought of doing some experiments with this, started with a more powerful, energetic “Good Morning” with a big smile. Surprisingly the replies I got were also of the same nature.I realized that, Happiness is NOT what you search in others or through others, but it should blossom within ourselves.
When you transmit energy, enthusiasm and happiness surely people around will also reciprocate the same. May be the sceptical ones could take time longer time, but it is worth doing this. If this sounds too philosophical for you, here are some practical tips that could bring better results in your search of happiness.
1. Find your Core Values and Standby them:
If you have not identified your life’s core values yet, then better do that first. Without knowing your own values and principles, how will you standby or follow them? According to my experience, the intrinsic guiding principle that you always hold-on to while making any decisions in life is your basic value. After a while you really don’t have to tell people what your values are, they will simply know through your actions. Once a new manger joined our organisation and within a week we understood that one of his important value is Punctuality. He would come to office in time, come to meetings in time, send e-mails, reports and presentations in time and wanted his team members also to complete things in time. His ultimate mantra is every time do things in time. Once we understood this, it becomes much easier for us to work with him easily, there was comfort and happiness in the team.
For example: As a driver on road my core value is – “I should never trouble or hit or hurt any other vehicle, person or animal on the road while I am driving my car”. It’s okie for me if I had to jump a RED signal early in the morning or late in the night when there is no traffic. But it is not acceptable if some else has to suffer because of me.
I’ve a friend who’s core value is Helpfulness. He would never move forward if he happen to come across a road accident. He will ensure that, he calls an ambulance, get the victim admitted in a hospital, inform the family members and only then he would move on.
If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything. – Alexander Hamilton
2. Money can actually buy happiness:
According to the world’s richest man Warren Buffet, who decided to give away 99% of his wealth to philanthropy during his lifetime or at death, “Money can actually buy happiness, just give it away for noble causes“. He says, “Some material things make my life more enjoyable; many, however, would not. I like having an expensive private plane, but owning a half-dozen homes would be a burden. Too often, a vast collection of possessions ends up possessing its owner. The asset I most value, aside from health, is interesting, diverse, and long-standing friends.”
Yes, it is important to accumulate wealth and money in this world that’s is primarily driven by economy. But many are bitten with the hunger to become rich, richer and richest. In that process they loose all their health, well being, relationships and most importantly life’s simple pleasures and happiness.
3. Pursue difficult challenges or solve difficult problems:
Pursuing something which is known to be impossible and make it possible could give great happiness to some people. Many employees leave jobs because they see it is not challenging any more.
I always wonder why do people put themselves inside the glass cage filled with Snakes or Scorpions to make some world records, what do they want to prove to the society? I believe doing something different or challenging is to create long lasting value and contribution to the people and society around us. When we do something that is larger than life, a sense of accomplishment, sense of self confidence and sense of achievement brings in lots of happiness. For many businessmen and entrepreneurs the very act of them doing something different and challenging than everyone else in the society makes them feel happy.
4. Don’t not buy more products, instead buy more experiences:
Many people think that buying that 8 bedroom luxury villa, private jet, expensive islands could only buy them happiness. Accumulating more and more materialistic things in life will only become a big liability not an asset. It will bring in instant and short term happiness but not a lasting impression of happiness and satisfaction in life.
Instead, start buying start buying more and more enriching experiences in life. It’s not where do you eat that matter, may be in a Star Hotel or a road side dhaba , but what matters is with whom do you eat. The experience of having a special dinner with your loved one matters much more than the expensive food itself. I would say take your near and dear ones to an excellent holiday vacation, if you give them even a simple gift during the vacation, that would bring lots of happiness and could be cherished for ever.
5. Live Frugally:
Living better with less is such a wonderful thing. Firstly it allows you to live with less, meaning you’ve to consume less, spend less, pollute less, even earn less. Adopt the philosophy of Reduce, Recycle and Reuse in your life in all possible areas. It will help you to avoid products those are more expensive and unhealthy. Frugal living will also reduce all your time and efforts to buy, use, maintain and dispose things those are not essential in your life. You’ll live more at present, your self awareness and life awareness will highly increase. This in turn could give you more happiness and joy of living.
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. – Dalai Lama